The biggest difference between people who guide their own personal evolution and achieve their goals and those who don't is that those who make progress reflect on what causes their amygdala hijackings.
When someone asks, “Why did I let myself eat all that cake?” the answer is “Because the lower-level you won out over the thoughtful, higher-level you.”
Your two “yous” fight to control you. It's like Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde, though your higher-level you is not aware of your lower-level you. This conflict is universal.
I used to think that the upper-level you needed to fight with the lower-level you to gain control, but over time I've learned that it is more effective to train that subconscious, emotional you the same way you would teach a child to behave the way you would like him or her to behave—with loving kindness and persistence so that the right habits are acquired.
Good habits are those that get you to do what your “upper-level you” wants, and bad habits are those that are controlled by your “lower-level you” and stand in the way of your getting what your “upper-level you” wants.
Train your “lower-level you” with kindness and persistence to build the right habits. The best way to do that is to consciously develop habits that will make doing the things that are good for you habitual.
The more you do it, the stronger you will become.
The Holy Grail of psychological power is your ability to flip your Inner Switch … to turn off your lower self and turn on your best possible self.
The key is to practice ... to build your emotional muscles. Repetition is the mother of mastery.
“Each smallest act of kindness, reverberates across
great distances and spans of time — affecting lives
unknown to the one who’s generous spirit, was the
source of this good echo.”
― Dean Koontz
Activate the Butterfly Effect!Small changes can have a big impact. Random acts of kindness can change lives. Baby steps can change yours. Now tap into your innerNet — that’s where the magic happens!